This is by my therapist, Dr. Sebastian Barr. It's a reframing that I really needed to hear, and I think most of my friends need it too.

Dr. Barr is an incredibly thoughtful man who I really wish I'd been seeing when Heather's transition was much more raw. (The first therapist I engaged with almost broke up our marriage. At some point I'll post about that.) He is proudly trans and also deeply compassion to cis anxiety around trans issues. All of that has absolutely nothing to do with the post I'm linking to, but I wanted to stick it in there anyway.

"I’ve so strongly linked caring and fighting to feeling bad that my automatic response to feeling this good is that I’m doing something wrong."

sebastianmbarr.substack.com/p/…

Feeling Good While the World Burns

A trans man and psychologist reflects on the role of pleasure amid tragedy and oppression

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